Dating someone with add
This attitude could discourage someone with ADHD from getting treatment that could change their life and turn a relationship around. And because people with ADHD tend to thrive with novelty and spontaneity, this part of the relationship can seem effortless.
"What you'll often see in the beginning is an engaging, dynamic, carefree, risk-taking individual.
"When you move to the commitment phase and you start to develop a routine of interdependence, that’s when you notice the 'consistent inconsistencies' in the partner with ADHD," says Ramsay.
"If you have ADHD, you need to find the right treatment (whether that's medication or another therapy), be willing to stick with it, and find accommodations so your environment is more conducive to your productivity," Barkley says. It's about managing the disorder effectively both inside and outside of the relationship for life.
"Hyperfocus" basically happens when people with ADHD can become so deeply focused or enamored with something that they can't let go or stop when they're supposed to switch to something else.
(Often known as "being in your own little world.")In the context of relationships, it can mean the person with ADHD initially puts all of their focus and energy into their new partner — dropping everything to see them, showering them with attention, listening to every little story.
Because of this, people with ADHD might find themselves consistently losing partners at this phase or only dating people for several months or a year at a time.
Relationships are an endurance sport, and sometimes people with ADHD sprint too hard in the beginning and burn out.