How to not take dating too seriously
It can even bring out some of the best parts of yourself and make you a better person overall.
But even the best person you date will merely enhance what’s already inside you, not completely fulfill you.
There’s not a lot you can do about the fact that new people in your life will always put their best foot forward. But what you do is to remind yourself that we’re all human and that we all offer a complex mix of the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Truth #1: There’s no such thing as the perfect person.
When we really think about it, we know that nobody’s perfect.
But sometimes when we’re experiencing the excitement of a first date or a new relationship, we may idealize another person and forget this important truth.
The next time you notice yourself wanting to fully invest in one person right away, remind yourself of this important truth.
Even while you enjoy getting to know this new person, continue to invest in other people and activities that fulfill you: friends, family, your career, service opportunities, exercise, social outings, etc.
Doing so will reinforce the fact that there are many ways to find fulfillment and help you remember the truth that you’re not dependent on only one person to give you what you want and need.
Instead, such people have bought into certain myths that leave them vulnerable to feeling much more emotionally attached much more quickly than is good for them or for a potential relationship.
Here are three myths that, if you believe them, can lead you to become too attached too soon.